Dear Anonymous...

Yesterday I was checking my blog and I saw that I had a new comment on my last post about Camden's appointment with Scottish Rite. I read the comment and I thought of it to be rather rude, I was very confused and I felt like it brought negativity to my blog, a place where I do not accept negativity. I started to write back to this person, who left their comment anonymous. I stopped though. I will admit that this person got to me and made me kind of mad. So I just deleted the comment to cause no other problems.

I am part of a mommy/baby Facebook group (that has been one of my main supporters since the beginning of mine and Camden's wonderful journey), and before I deleted the comment I shared it with them and told them how I felt about it. Then I deleted the comment from my blog because I felt like I would just give this person satisfaction if I responded. I got some responses from my lovely mommy/baby group; I slept on it, and this morning I feel like I need to address it. 

Here is what Anonymous said:


"You're a good mom and all but seriously you're not the only one going thru stuff like this how's about you use your Facebook popularity to bring awareness and show support instead of just talking about you and him all the time. God chose you to be his momma for a reason so be the change that you want to see in the world and show some support and let others be aware so that when we see children like this we will not think of them any differently, we are all equal. Don't take this the wrong way it just pisses me off when I see people who have the power to make a difference and all they do is talk about themselves almost makes it seem like they want pity. Hope I'm wrong. May God continue to bless you both." 

Well Mr./Ms. Anonymous... instead of just giving you a comment back, I will give you a whole blog post. 


At first, I wasn't even sure if I knew what to say to this comment or if I wanted to say anything at all. Before I deleted the comment, I had something written out, but I didn't want to regret a word I said. This confused person confused me too... One of the MAIN reasons why I started Camden's Facebook page and my blog were to SHOW SUPPORT and BRING AWARENESS! I wanted people that are going through the same thing, a similar situation, or even people who aren't going through anything even close to this to know, Hey we're here! I didn't give up on Camden. He's okay, I'm okay, and you'll be okay too! I wanted people to know that just because Camden was born with a little less surface area doesn't mean that its the end of the world or that he is different than you and me or that he will never be able to do anything for himself or others. I wanted to give everyone a peek into our life to see how God has blessed us through the good and bad times. The page and the blog are about CAMDEN, what he goes through, and what I go through as his mother. I like to share our NORMAL everyday life. So yeah, there is going to mainly be talk about us. I'm not going to just post a picture of Camden and say, "hey, this is Camden, he's limbless and you shouldn't look at him and think he is different... or stare... or talk behind our backs... Shame on you if you did! You should just look at his heart even though you can't see it in this picture." Yes I am being sarcastic... I like to post normal things, like talking about how cute and chubby he is, how proud I am to be his mom, or talk about something new that he figured out! We are just your normal everyday Mommy and son. There is nothing special about us. We are no different than the other Mommy with the 4 month old baby with arms and legs. I want everyone to see that. 
Camden is only 4 months old. I don't know all the ins and outs of this stuff... We just started!! Is this person expecting me to go out tomorrow and start some organization for kids with limb deformities and spend less time Mothering my child... You know, because God made me Camden's mom to go make sure that everyone else knows YESTERDAY about kids like Camden, God didn't make me his Mother to feed him, bathe him, clothe him, and go 3 days without taking a shower. And for this person to think that I am asking for PITY! That is so insulting! I have never once said boohoo me or boohoo Camden. I don't feel sorry for myself, nor do I feel sorry for Camden. I don't want ANYONE to feel sorry for us. There is no reason to be! I'm still trying to figure out why anyone would feel sorry at all... Because he was born without arms and legs? Big deal, he'll figure out how to do things. Don't you think that if we all were born with just heads and an butt on the back of it we'd figure out some way to wipe it... I mean, why in the world would I want someone to feel sorry for him? He isn't unable. He does it different. Yeah, there will be some things that he cannot do... But I can't ride a bike or swim that well. There are so many things I can't do. Do you feel sorry for me now? One day, I would like to make a difference in the world in a bigger way than just posting about Camden and his accomplishments and our accomplishments as a family, but that is the only way I know how to make a difference at the moment. 

Comments

  1. Well said! i dislike ignorance, but pompous ignorance is intolerable.

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  2. You are so cool. Camden is so cool. You make a fabulous team.

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  3. Sometimes you just have to excuse people... I think God gives special babies to special people, and you were chosen to be Camdens mom and caretaker. I think though, that if you post some of the problems you go through, and some of the issues that Camden experiences, it might help someone else in the same kind of situation. But I love to see how happy he is, and how much he has grown, and what a beautiful smile he has...but don't forget, we can't pray specially for your problems if you never share them.

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    1. Katie posts everything that she has encountered with him. I live with them daily and see everything that she sees. She has not encountered any problems with him. He is only 4 months old and he has been healthy and without any issues. I am unsure why anyone would be sitting around anticipating problems just so you can have something to pray about.

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  4. Katie, you are an amazing mom. The encouragement and support that "Anonymous" is seeking will be revealed through Camden's amazing journey. The comments that were made are very hypocritical. God made you Camden's mom to love him, support him, care for him and you are amazing at that!! God gave theof Camden to give others hope and inspiration. Your blog does not represent self pity but instead it shows the incredible bond between a mother and child beyond any diversity. Anonymous was correct when she states we are all created equally. Camden is equally given the right to be a happy little boy as you are equally right to experience all the ins and outs as a first time mom in what ever outlet you choose. Keep doing what you are doing. Sadly, Anonymous is naive to the fact that you are bring awareness to others by showing how how similar Camden is to everyone else and shouldn't be singled out. I wouldn't have come to love Camden like I do if you haven't brought his story to light.

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  5. You are doing an amazing job at being Camden's mom... I have a special needs baby, 4 1/2 months old and I love reading about Camden and your journey! God does give special babies to special people.. I know for a fact God chose my husband and I to have our baby and he chose YOU to have sweet Camden! You are already making a difference to so many people that you do not know.. Blog away about Camden and you! And pray for those that do not understand and think you are being selfish, but in my eyes you have every right to be selfish with YOUR blog!!

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  6. Oh my gosh! They're offended that someone talked about themselves and their family in their own blog!

    ...sorry, they're a little ridiculous and I think they got confused about how life works. May God bless them with a little more common sense.

    Enjoy your beautiful boy, Katie, and keep posting about him - especially since this is YOUR blog about HIM!

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  7. your an amazing person let a lone mom. Go get em girl.

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  8. Everytime I see You and little Camden I get so happy!! I just love you guys, with all my heart! You are both so beautiful<3 I really admire you. You are strong and brave! Your Son will learn that from you<3 You are also very kind and it appears that you dont act on an impulse or straight out of anger:) another good quality Camden will learn from you. Your not only a Mom ( which is huge in itself) , you are Camden's Teacher, leader, protector. You are doing an EXCELLENT job! <3 When this world get's you down at times, hold your baby boy and, know that God see's you both. He know's when you hurt and He is there for you guys. I want to say "Thank You " for being the thoughtful, kind, awesome Mom that you are, and for handling this the way you did<3 God bless you and, your little man forever<3 Danielle.

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  9. Very well said! I absolutely love seeing his cute little chubby face and hearing about how he is doing! You are an amazing mommy and he is a perfect little angel! Please don't let anyone get you down about what you are doing or how you are mothering your precious gift. I am a mother of 4 (2 with special needs) and while things can be challenging at times, there is nothing more exciting than watching our little ones grow and develop! You are so right about how he will be successful and be able to accomplish so much even if he does it a little differently than some people. He has a strong foundation and I know he will do great things because of his amazing mommy! Thank you for being so inspiring and for sharing your beautiful little boy with all of us.

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  10. It makes me so proud to see how much motherhood has matured you! Shame on the person that felt it necessary to be so unkind. Your response was right on! You bring awareness every single time you blog by allowing many into your daily lives!! I am a proud aunt!!! I love you guys!!

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  11. This post is proof positive that God gave your precious little boy exactly the right mommy, and he gave you exactly the right baby boy!! So incredibly well written and spoken with a voice that is wise beyond your years! Keep enjoying and sharing all your joys and triumphs momma!! After all, isnt that what any "normal" mommy with a "normal" baby boy would do, right?!?! Good grief, wonder what anonymous' definition of "normal" is?? I bet none of us would fit it, including anonymous!! And I am so sorry that you should have to take the time and energy to think over such an obviously ignorant and quite possibly envious statement from a stranger.

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  12. You're in simple words an amazing mother, human being and inspiration. I don't feel sorry for you NOW. I have to speak honestly I did when I first heard about your baby boy, but after seeing a few of your posts and his cute video I couldn't resists to realize how strong and amazing you both are. Keep doing what you're doing because it is amazing.

    Ana Q.

    P.s. I am form your october BBC group! <3 baby Camden!

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  13. Camden is adorable!

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