Saturday, July 8, 2017

The Birth of Jaxton Cole Alexander Greene

On Sunday, July 2nd, I woke up with contractions. It was kind of annoying because this was the 3rd Sunday in a row that I woke up with contractions and that meant another church service being extremely uncomfortable. 

After church me and Cole dropped off the kids at my dad and step moms house so I could go walk for a bit and see if it helped things get stronger because I just had a feeling. But we went to target and it was too much stopping to get things going. After we picked up the kids we went home, got them in bed, and me and Cole walked about two miles. When we were almost done walking I could tell that his head was way lower because every time I'd have a contraction it felt like I had a bulge in my vagina. 

I had contractions all Sunday night that woke me up several times. I finally got out of bed at 6am Monday morning to go pee and had some pink spotting. Contractions started getting stronger where I would have to stop. I told Cole and my mom that this might be it. So I did some laundry and packed our hospital bags, which I hadn't got to yet because I was only 36 weeks and 6 days pregnant and I never went into labor with my other two pregnancies. 

As the morning went by contractions were getting stronger and closer and I was still spotting. I got in the shower to see if that would help and it didn't change anything. I called my OB office around lunch and they told me to get to the hospital as soon as possible. 

I got to the hospital around 2:30pm. I got into a bed at 3pm and when the on call OB checked me I was 3cm and 90% effaced and was having contractions 3-4 minutes apart. They had me walk for 2 hours to see if I would progress. 

I was checked again at 5pm after 2 hours of walking and contractions getting stronger and closer and was "a good 4cm" dilated and still 90% effaced. 

I was admitted to Labor & Delivery about 20 minutes later. I was put on IV antibiotics because I hadn't had my gbs test yet and got fluids because baby's heart rate would go up really high during some contractions. The fluids really helped chill him out. 

Around 6pm my OB, Dr. Cummings, came in and checked me. He said that saying I was 4cm would be very generous and he wouldn't say 4. So I had a banana milkshake because I was starving, did more walking, got in the shower to help relax myself, bounced on a yoga ball, leaned on the bed, and did some squatting. 

Dr. Cummings came back in at 11pm. No progress. Just 4cm. Contractions about 2 minutes apart. So I had him break my waters. He said he would be back around 3am. 

Holy crap. I didn't realize how having my waters broken would bring on contractions so much stronger. It was instant. And no amount of reading or what anyone tells you will EVER prepare you for how bad those contractions hurt. 

They wanted me to walk around more, but I wanted to lay there for a few to relax. Relaxing didn't last very long though and I didn't feel comfortable walking out of my room because I was moaning during contractions. 

Contractions starting getting really strong around 1am and I was wanting pain medicine just to take off the edge. Cole and my mom were both telling me no though because I had told them before that if I start asking, don't let me have them. 

2am came by and I was in an unbelievable and unbearable amount of pain. I felt like I was being tortured. I was yelling and crying out that I needed something for the pain because I couldn't loosen up or focus during the contractions and I thought I was going to stop myself from progressing. 

My nurse checked me between 2am and 2:30am and I was 6cm. All I could think about was that this was going to last for hours and I wouldn't have the energy to get through. I even asked for an epidural because at that point I didn't care what my goal was. I wanted relief. Everyone was telling me that I could do it and Cole was getting so emotional because he knew I was in so much pain, but he kept reminding me of how disappointed I would be in myself if I didn't go through with it. I told him I didn't care anymore. Everyone said just to wait for my doctor to come back in because it wasn't that long and I've already made it this far. 

At about 3am my body was starting to push here and there on its own and I kept feeling like I was going to throw up. I was trying to take my mind to a different place, I tried opening my eyes and focusing on the pattern in my pillow, I tried listening to my mom and Cole, but I just couldn't stop. I was rocking and swaying and moaning during contractions and laying down for a few seconds in between to try and rest. When my body would start pushing I felt like I was roaring like a lion. I yelled out that I was pushing and everyone told me to stop. But I couldn't stop. It was just happening. 

Dr. Cummings came in at about 3:15 and checked me. I was 9cm and fully effaced. I wasn't even happy. I didn't even have any thoughts. I was just done. He kept his hand there and said that at the next contraction we would decide what to do. Next contraction I was at 10cm and my body was still pushing on its own. It was time to get baby out. 

The bed got broken down and nurses started filling up the room. I couldn't stop moving my legs and I couldn't focus at all. I was in so much pain. 

Dr. Cummings said, "We're going to have a baby, but I need you to get him out." He told me to hold back my legs with my hands and when I had a contraction to hold my breath and push. So I did just that while roaring like a wild animal. 

On July 4th at 3:23am, after 6 pushes, Jaxton Cole Alexander Greene came into this world weighing 6 pounds 14 ounces and 20 1/2 inches long. 100% perfection.

I finally got my natural VBA2C and couldn't be any more thankful for my OB who trusted and believed in my body's ability to birth naturally. But I'm most thankful for Cole staying by my side this whole pregnancy and birth encouraging me, loving me, and for giving me the privilege of watching him fall in love for the very first time. 

Monday, June 26, 2017

New Changes- The Admirably Diverse Mom

New changes are coming for Admirably Diverse! I've been thinking about making a sister page for Admirably Diverse - A Sibling Adventure (Camden and Ryleigh's Facebook page) for a while now. After we got thrown in a hole financially late last week, I decided now is the time. I created a new page, The Admirably Diverse Mom, to share all things mom (my blog posts, articles, videos, my thoughts etc.) and to help promote my work from home business! Admirably Diverse - A Sibling Adventure will now just be all about Camden, Ryleigh, and baby Jaxton. 

But back to me becoming a work at home mom! 

I'm about to get really real... Over the weekend we were thrown in the hole financially. Cole and several other good men didn't get paid for the last two weeks of work they did because an evil person just felt like they didn't have to keep their word and pay them. Basically taking food out of people's mouths and diapers off of babies bottoms. It has totally devastated us. We're supposed to be moving into an apartment in about 3 weeks, we have a baby due in 4 weeks that we aren't even prepared for yet, and all of our stuff is still in Georgia! We were counting on that money to make everything happen!

Then on Saturday I saw one of my pregnant momma friends post about how you can sign up for It Works! for only $9.99!! I commented and said that I hope she does it again soon, because I just can't commit to something right when I'm about to have a baby! (My third baby in 4 years at that... but that was just me making excuses.) Then someone commented and asked me what I had to lose. I thought in my head "idk, I may not be able to buy my kids diapers this week and Cole may not have the gas money to go to work?" Me making excuses again because I cloth diaper half the time. But I told her she was right. Because she was. 

My friend sent me a few encouraging voice messages. I realized that God was telling me to do it. We're hurting so bad financially and live pay check to pay check every single time. A big sign was being held in front of my face and part of me was trying to push it away. So I told Cole and he listened to the messages with me. He told me to do it. So with only $23 in my bank, $82 in credit, and $3 cash on me, I signed up to be an It Works! distributor. 

I truly feel in my heart that this was put in front of my face by God and I KNOW that I am going to be one of those success stories. One day I'll be equally contributing financially to my family and not have to work a job just to pay for someone else to take care of my children. One day I won't have to live in apartments for low income families anymore. One day I won't have to have myself or my children on medicaid or other government assistance. 

One day *I* will be able to build my family's dream home -a home that Camden will physically thrive in. 

One day *I* will go to the grocery store and not have to use a calculator to make sure I stay within my budget. 

One day *I* will buy my own car. 

One day *I* will be able to buy Camden a crazy cool wheelchair. 

One day *I* will be able to help another family just like mine, because they deserve it. 

One day *I* will be an It Works! success story, all for my deserving babies and my man that takes care of us so well.  

***If you want to build your success story with me, then please email me at katiewhiddon@admirablydiverse.comYou can only become a distributor for $9.99 until the 30th of June! The business builder kit includes 4 wraps that you can either keep for yourself or make an automatic profit by selling them $25 each!  After that it goes back to $100 to sign up. Don't push it away like I almost did! Let's help each other succeed!!***

Thursday, June 15, 2017

Daddy's Cheat Sheet For Labor

Daddy’s Cheat Sheet For Labor

When contractions start
-Make arrangements for Camden and Ryleigh
-Make sure everything on our hospital bag checklist is in our bags
-Make sure I eat a high protein meal
-Make sure I drink plenty of fluids
-If contractions are slow at first, make sure I nap and keep the kids out of our room. 
-Call hospital/OB office when contractions are 5 minutes apart, lasting for 1 minute, for 1 hour OR if you notice sudden changes in my behavior (i.e. not able to talk through contractions)

When we are admitted to the hospital
-Remind me to contact my family
-Call your parents and family
-Have me change into my laboring clothes

When in active labor
-Make sure our birth plan and wishes are being followed within reason
-Ask if there is anything you can do for me
-Offer a massage
-Ask if I would like a drink or ice
-Ask if I would like for you to get in the shower with me
-Remind me to breathe deeply and slowly and to relax
-Offer oils on a cotton ball if I am upset or nauseous
-Remind me to change positions often/use birthing ball/walk halls 
-Repeat these lines to me:
“Each surge brings our baby closer to us.”
“You are fearless.”
“You are strong.”
“God designed your body for this purpose.”
“These surges are not stronger than you.”
“I have complete confidence that your body is working perfectly.”
“The pain that you've been feeling can't compare to the joy that is coming.”

If I am stressed or nervous
-Pray with me 
-Ask what you can do for me
-Ask if I would like for you to hug or hold me

When pushing begins
-Ask if I would like to use you for support
-Suggest a change in position if you notice me getting annoyed

When Jaxton is born
-Make sure umbilical cord has STOPPED pulsating BEFORE you cut. 
-Make sure he nurses before being examined, unless there is an emergency. 
-Make sure nurses and doctors do NOT retract or manipulate his foreskin whatsoever, especially without consulting us. 
-Make sure he gets the cloth diaper of your choice put on him instead of disposable. 
-Get into bed with us as soon as possible. 
-Our baby is not to be taken out of our room without the reasons being discussed with us first and nurses providing proper identification. 

After we have had proper bonding time
-Send pictures/video call your family
-Allow our visitors to enter the room
-Look at our postpartum plan for Jaxton’s care. Stay by his side no matter what. You are his protector and advocate. 
-Enjoy time with your baby boy and don't be afraid to take him away from anyone. 

If there is an emergency
-ALWAYS ask if there is time to talk about other options. 
-Make sure my mother is aware and ask her opinion, if there is time.